Should you honor your need to be heard, or should you focus on the needs of others? Fortunately, you you can do both by using an interpersonal approach called compassionate assertiveness.
Speaking up for yourself can have many benefits, but it may not always be easy to do. Many people worry that asserting themselves is (or will be perceived by others as) mean or petty, or that they will hurt the other person’s feelings and cause them great pain. If this describes you, perhaps you keep your true needs and opinions to yourself. Unfortunately though, this can create stress and resentment that can undermine your relationships and your peace of mind.
Compassionate Assertiveness is a unique blend of cognitive behavioral-based approaches--such as assertiveness training and communication skills--and Buddhist psychology.
Please check out the Compassionate Assertiveness facebook page for lots of ideas and links that I hope will enrich your life.
In addition, The Guide To Compassionate Assertiveness can help you can learn how to make requests, negotiate, and express your feelings and concerns in ways that are true to your values of caring and kindness. With this guide you will discover collaboration, negotiation, and communication skills that will benefit others and your relationships, and that will give you more confidence and peace of mind. If you are afraid to speak up, have a deep concern for the feelings of others, or just want to express yourself more effectively, the Guide To Compassionate Assertiveness can help you learn these skills so that you can improve your relationships at home, at work, and in social settings.
Wishing you peace and harmony, Sherrie
Sherrie Vavrichek, LCSW-C
The Guide To Compassionate Assertiveness: How To Express Your Needs and Deal With Conflict While Keeping a Kind Heart (2012) by Sherrie Mansfield Vavrichek, LCSW-C, is a New Harbinger publication.
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